I’ve been thinking about what to write since last night. I needed some time to process.

I stress the importance of following your instincts quite frequently. I think that people (especially women) pick up on cues that we can’t always put into words, but we know that something is wrong.

I went on a third date with a guy recently. On our first date, he made some comments about physical expectations in a relationship. It rubbed me the wrong way, and I stopped talking to him for a spell. He popped up again randomly a few weeks later asking what he did wrong, and we discussed it. I wasn’t 100% satisfied with his explanation, but I gave him another chance. The second date went fairly well. The thid date is where things started to get a little...weird.

The waiter at dinner turned out to be my friend’s little brother, and my date seemed put off by this fact. He actually got a little 20-questions about a few of my guy friends. We went out to a bar afterwards, and had a nice time talking. For a while.

Maybe it was the alcohol, but at some point the vibe changed. It reminded me of that post I made a few weeks ago about getting weirded out when guys are acting more drunk than they should be. He made a few comments about me giving up hobbies to spend more time with him (while in the same breath saying he’s not ready to get out of the dating pool). This devolved into him getting much too handsy for my tastes, so I left.

I guess my point is that at some point in the evening, I started to get a little scared. I can’t even really say why, other than that I could see things potentially going in a direction I did not want. Maybe I was being overly sensitive. Maybe I dodged a bullet. Either way, I woke up content with my decision.

Be safe out there, everyone.