This is something I’ve been debating writing about for a while.

Guys, I judge you if you don’t care if I’m safe.

I’m 4’10” and 100 lbs. I am a very small person. Blah blah blah women’s lib, feminism, etc. Yes, I can take care of myself. But it would be appreciated if you would at least offer to make sure that I get to my destination unharmed.

I’ve had two incidences recently where this really bothered me.

One is when I took a group Uber to a bar in a different part of town after a comedy show. One of the guys (who at the time was trying to date me) and I took an Uber back to his car because it was parked closer. Instead of either driving me to my car or offering to walk me to mine, he just took off and left me in an extremely dark and somewhat sketchy neighborhood. That was one of multiple nails in the coffin for that dude, but that’s a story for another day.

The more recent experience was when I flew out to visit an old friend in another city. We had a nice time catching up. At the end of the weekend, I ended up having to walk down from his high-rise by myself and wait out on the sidewalk for an Uber as it was getting dark. Also, at first there were no cars available, so I got to sit out on the curb with my suitcase and keep refreshing the app. It would have been nice if he had at least offered to help me get to and from the airport, but whatever. My expectations are somewhere near rock-bottom at this point. Once his front door shut and I realized he didn’t care if I got home ok, I knew that was the last time I was going to see him. This wasn’t the only reason why it wasn’t going to work between us, but that is a complicated story I’ll probably never tell here.

Maybe some of this is just guys being oblivious. Maybe it’s being selfish. Maybe it’s just not caring. The reason is irrelevant. We’re in our 30s now, and we are who we are.

On the flip side, thanks to Eddie for both picking me up on the way to the airport and then dropping me off on the way home, even though he had to fly out to St. Louis the next morning on 3 hours of sleep. You’re a good dude. That’s why we’re still friends.

I’m going to get some relaxation in tonight. See you guys in the morning.